If you suspect someone may be feeling suicidal, ask them – it could save their life. Talking about suicide does not put people at risk or give them the idea. It can be a relief to be asked about suicide and shows you care.
How to ask
Be direct and clear, such as: “Are you thinking about suicide?” or “Do you feel suicidal?”.
Don’t use euphemisms such as “you’re not thinking of doing something silly?”.
Do not delay in asking.
Listen to the Person
Listen without judgement to how the person is feeling. Listening to a person will help them to release their emotions and talk through their issues. Do not dismiss what they are feeling. Show the person you care about them. Do not try to solve the person’s problems.
Encourage the Person to get help
There are people out there who can help. Encourage the person to make an appointment with their GP. They could call Breathing Space or Samaritans (see the bottom of this page for contact details). If the person has immediate suicide plans, and the means to carry it out, call999. Keep yourself safe.